On Being Lonely

20 Jun

If you look up the word lonely, you will find many definitions, all which imply the absence of people.

I know that kind of lonely. For an extrovert, it’s hard when I don’t have  friends who I get to see and connect with regularly. As much as I love email, Facebook (not currently), texting and even talking on the phone, there is nothing quite like have a face to face conversation ending with a squeeze around the neck.

A few months ago, a friend who used to live here traveled back into town for a visit. She is a beautiful soul and has the kindest heart. An excellent listener, she genuinely wants to hear what you have to say when she asks you a question. She was asked me how I was doing.

{Side note: So, you know when you don’t realize you’re kinda on the emotional edge but then someone asks just the right question or says just the right thing and you can feel the dam in your eyes that have been holding back the tears slowly lowering, ready to gush. And then you are trying your hardest not to start speaking because once the tears come there will be no stopping? Well, that is exactly what happened.}

So as I was cry-talking, or cralking, I realized how lonely I was…as in the absence of people…friends. And I said just that to her.

“I am lonely.”

I’m sure she hugged me and said something really sweet and encouraging, but I don’t remember. What I do remember was what she said next.

I don’t know what is more lonely…not having any friends or having lots of them but feeling like none of them really know you… understand you… “get you.” I lived here for many years and knew lots of people, but often times felt so alone. 

Maybe you know someone who is experiencing this kind of lonely. One where even though surrounded by family and friends, they may feel as if no one really knows them or knows how they feel or knows what they are going through.

Maybe you know someone who is lonely from the absence of others. Someone new to town, someone who lost a loved one, or maybe you have just sensed loneliness in a person.

Or maybe you know someone who is going through a season in life that can be very lonely and you have been through that season too.

Take a few moments today and write a note & send a little love in the mail {a Wednesday Letter!}. Nothing long. Just a little something to let them know that they are known.  Or to let them know that you have been there too...or both!

Well heck, if you don’t have time to find a stamp or address, shoot them a text or an email, or maybe call to say “Hi, I was just thinking of you.”

Just do something.

And if you are reading this and thinking…I know someone like that… myself…I want you to know

you are loved.

XOXO

Amber

***

P.S. Thank you Lisa for the love that showed up in my mailbox. Just knowing that you know, is so very encouraging.

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5 Responses to “On Being Lonely”

  1. Gina June 20, 2012 at 10:24 pm #

    Huggss to you sweetie. Miss you bunches and love ya lots!!!

  2. Kim June 21, 2012 at 6:17 pm #

    I know this lonely. You said this so very well.

    • amberomega June 21, 2012 at 7:52 pm #

      thanks for visiting, Kim. I think we might have lots in common 🙂

  3. Jennifer Lee Samose June 22, 2012 at 11:04 pm #

    Amber, my mom says I need to check out your blog, that she is really proud of you for sharing your heart so here I am. Love the authenticity, lil cousin. But seriously, how do you have the time w 4 kids?! Time to share Valene 🙂

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